Scratch – it’s an interesting word.
I know when my life fell apart … the first time … I had 8 kids. I was left scratching my head.
Scratch – You know the feeling when you have that little itch that is ridiculously irritating? It consumes your mind until that blessed moment when you finally get a chance to SCRATCH it! Scratching can feel really good!
Speaking of scratch …
Sometimes I have to do just that – SCRATCH my plans and ideas. Things didn’t go as I planned or anticipated. OK, scratch it! Strike that idea out! Let’s start over again … from scratch.
Here are some definitions I found for the word SCRATCH:
To use the nails or claws for tearing or digging. – Yep, that is pretty much how I felt.
To earn a living or manage in any respect with great difficulty. – Yeeeesssss.
To withdraw or be withdrawn from a contest or competition. Bingo! The only problem was, the contest was the game of life
So to simplify a very complicated matter, please allow me to share with you 7 steps I personally used to rebuild my life from scratch. And I am talking about when everything fell apart, my life was completely broken and GONE as I knew it.
7 Steps to Build Your Life Again From Scratch
S – See what assets you do have. Do you have breath, health, a somewhat sane mind? That is a start.
C – Choose to rebuild – The most difficult part of rebuilding my life was that no one could do it for me. Others could support me in various ways, but ultimately I had to make that choice to rebuild.
R – Risk having relationships. When you are down and out, the last thing you want to do is put out the effort to build relationships. People are how we heal. You will not heal in a vacuum. Reach out to someone who is trustworthy who can help you. Risk letting down your walls even when it is so difficult to trust. Take a tiny step.
A – Ask the right questions. Ask for advice. The right question is not “Why is this happening to me?” The right question is “What is one thing I can do to begin to rebuild my life?” or “Whom can I ask for advice who has been through this before?”
T – Take responsibility for your future. Trust. Watch your Thoughts. Think about what you DO have and what you DO want. Try your best not to think about what you don’t have and what you don’t want.
C – Cry. Let it out. When I went through my rebuilding process I lived near a lake that was in drought. I could not understand how that could be since I cried enough tears to fill it up multiple times. Give yourself room to cry like a baby …. because that is where you are right now…. starting a new life just like a baby.
H – Happiness – Allow yourself to feel happiness. In the midst of your pain, give yourself permission to have moments of joy. Smile if you can’t laugh. And when something does make you smile, make your mind think about it for a moment. Don’t let it go so quickly. If you get a chance to laugh out loud, take it. Laughter is one of your greatest assets.
If you have been on this planet for any length of time, you have experienced a “Scratch” moment.
I found one more definition of the word scratch:
SCRATCH – THE VERY BEGINNING OR STARTING POINT. LINE OR MARK DRAWN AS A STARTING PLACE.
That is my personal favorite.
How do we start our life over from scratch? Draw a line in the sand and make a declaration. MY NEW LIFE BEGINS TODAY. NOW IS THE START OF MY NEW JOURNEY. THIS MOMENT IS MY STARTING PLACE. And even if you cry like a baby in the beginning of your new life, I promise that you will outgrow that stage. Life will get better. You will grow and be stronger.
After all … Everyone knows that things are better when they are made from scratch.
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